In October I had my Blogs 1 year anniversary.
You wouldn’t have known that because I didn’t tell you all, and why? At the time it was because other “bigger, better” bloggers than me had theirs too. Of course that’s how I saw it in my head, but this of the year calls for some serious reflection and looking back now I fell into yet another blogging trap.
Constantly comparing myself to others. I’ve done this since day 1. It’s hard not to when the reason I started was inspiration from so many other people with great blogs in the first place.
But why not celebrate all the hard work and fun I’ve had with my blog in the past year?
October 2016 I bought my own domain and went full speed ahead. I threw myself into a world of the unknown. I thought after research of blogging that I knew exactly what I was getting myself into but no one can truly prepare you.
When I first started I thought I knew what it was I wanted to talk about, I kept it general. First lesson learnt…some people do NOT like this. Some assume you HAVE to stick to one thing. It’s not true, just go with what you feel passionate about at the time. Saying that, as I started to grow and was offered opportunity that involved money and would find myself writing about anything. That was trap number 2.
Thankfully there are some amazing fellow bloggers ready to offer advice and the biggest thing I’ve learnt so far is to say NO. I am not accepting that stupid low fee for my hard work and I am not taking that money to post about something I wouldn’t normally. No one teaches you that, but it’s empowering after a while.
When I first started blogging a whole year ago, I felt that I had to be everyone’s friend. I felt that everyone had to like me, but I also thought that all bloggers were wonderful, you know, such pretty blogs and they are so nice online. Trap number 3! Other bloggers are not your best friends, in fact, it’s one of the most bitchiest environments I’ve ever “worked” in. I know that is a bold statement and will in turn get me a lot of stick but seriously. There have been times I have thought about quitting my blog, and for what??? other people??
I don’t really have advice on how to make this stop apart from, don’t be part of it, don’t think everyone is your best friend. be civil and nice to others and hopefully they will nice back. and if it’s online, like Carly Musleh said at the Ellefluence summit. Just Delete and move on.
I really don’t want this post to be full of negatives. Blogging has been amazing!
I have attended so many wonderful blogging events and met some amazing people, both bloggers and wonderful brands and representatives. I have love working with some brands and over the year had had a few repeat opportunities. This has really helped increase my confidence but I couldn’t have done it alone. There are some GREAT groups out there full of lovely bloggers that offer great advice and don’t be afraid to ask. you may not always get the response you would like but hey, that’s life!!
This year has been a whirlwind with my blog, never did I think I would be travelling or attending more local events. I started off as a beauty blogger with the aims of brining you honest reviews. I have continue to do that but now I’m LOVING my petite and plus size niche and so excited for next year not only for my “little” blog but for the whole industry.
I’m also mega proud of my photography skills, this year I have spent so much time reading and asking a billion questions about photography and I’ve come a long way! Here’s a throwback to my first ever post, it didn’t even have any photos! LOL
I think I’m going into 2018 a bit more open minded. I’m not going to let the little things upset me and if someone doesn’t want to be nice, that’s not my fault is it. I’m really excited about the future of my blog, and I’m going to work really hard on a work life balance so I can try and keep things up for my readers.
A wise woman once told me, you cant control others, you can only control the way you react to them.
So finally, thank you all so much for the love you have shown my blog, without you I wouldn’t be where I am now, I hope this post has helped, it has for me, it feels great getting things of my chest. I have some wonderful things to review over the new year! Keep your eyes peeled!