Music, Lingerie, and Perfume – Discreet Ways to Set the Scene for Romance
Let’s face it. Your bedroom should be the epitome of romance—a sanctuary for sleeping, intimacy, and exploring your sensuality. But, in reality, this room can accidentally become a storage room for random clutter. As a result, it’s not a space that makes you feel calm and at ease, let alone sexy.
Seeking a bedroom that exudes romance? Then use these fool proof tips to set the mood.
Colour’s ability to transform your mood is amazing—which is why it’s crucial to choose the right hue in the bedroom. While you may think that red is the way to go, a Travelodge study revealed that people with red rooms had sex the least often (an average of once a week). On the other hand, those who used caramel tones in their decor had sex the most (an average of three times a week). So, take note, and make use of rich, warm browns to set the scene in the boudoir.
Remember the power of perfume
We’re all well aware of the power of scent: A whiff of something can trigger memories or even emotions in an instant. Take advantage of this in the bedroom by integrating scents that act like an aphrodisiac. That may mean a spritz of perfume on the sheets, or some scented candles or essential oil aromatherapy sticks around the room.
As for which scents are the sexiest, look for perfumes that contain notes of vanilla — a survey on AskMen.com revealed that its welcoming, sweet scent has an enticing effect that puts men in the mood. Furthermore, a report on the Social Issues Research Center’s site states that according to recent research, vanilla fragrance can reduce stress and anxiety, which is key to intimacy.
It seems that nothing is quite as alluring to men as pumpkin, however. In a study run by The Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation, the scent of pumpkin pie came in first place for sexual desire, driving a staggering 40 percent of male subjects wild.
Set the Scene with Sexy Lighting
It’s no secret that overhead lighting is immensely unflattering. In your bedroom, you want to have a soft glow that makes you feel both serene and sultry at the same time. To achieve that kind of filtered light, switch off the ceiling light and opt for bedside lamps with dim bulbs (60 watts max). Pink-tinted bulbs offer a nice mood-enhancing radiance that mimics candlelight.
Or, you could also use groups of candles scattered around the room on shelves, a dresser, mantle, or nightstands for some instant ambiance. Pro tip: If you place candles in front of mirrors, you can create the illusion of even more subtle flickering light in the space.
Buy Blackout Curtains
Speaking of light … blackout curtains can be well worth the investment in setting the scene for romance. These curtains will block out the outside world, adding a sense of total privacy to your boudoir.
Plus, they’ll likely make you linger in bed with your loved one for much longer in the morning, particularly if you get a ton of natural light that tends to stream through your windows. Worried that black curtains won’t match the decor in your bedroom? Luckily, they now come in a range of colors and headings, whether you prefer a rod top or grommets.
Additionally, you can opt for blackout blinds or shades if curtains or drapes aren’t your style. Or, you can simply add blackout liners to the existing curtains by using a double rod. As an added bonus, these curtains can cut costs on your energy bill as well as protect floors and furniture from fading and other damage by reducing the UV rays that come through the window into your home.
Spice Things Up with Your Underthings
Nothing spells sexy like some lacy full figure lingerie. Try a front-closing bra—it’s super easy to take off in the heat of the moment—and pair it with a matching panty. Two-tone lace with a floral design is feminine and flirty without being too over-the-top.
Since the element of surprise is a huge part of seduction, don’t save your best lingerie only for anniversaries and Valentine’s Day—sport it under casual clothes on a regular weeknight so your S.O. will be caught off guard by the sexy little secret you were hiding under your ensemble.
And, in case you needed extra incentive to don special undergarments, a Chapman University study published in The Journal of Sex Research found that men and women who reported being satisfied with their sex lives cited the use of sexy lingerie as a regular component.
Turn up the mood music
The right tunes can do wonders for setting a romantic scene. In fact, in a study by Deezer and international sex, body language and relationships expert Tracey Cox, 30 percent of participants reported that music turns them on, 25 percent agreed sex is better with a soundtrack and 15 percent stated that it makes them feel less awkward in the bedroom.
So which tracks should you put on your playlist? Among others, the survey’s respondents named “Intro” by The XX, “Magic” by Coldplay, “Need You Tonight” by INXS, “Skin” by Rihanna, “Love To Love You Baby” by Donna Summer, “Drunk in Love” by Beyoncé, “Sexy Back” by Justin Timberlake, “Love Me Like You Do” by Ellie Goulding and — no surprise here — the classic “Let’s Get It On” by Marvin Gaye, as top contenders for getting them in the mood.
Create Intimacy with a Canopy
There’s nothing like a canopy draped over a bed to create romance, intimate vibe—especially an ultra elegant crown canopy (a coronet). If your bed happens to have a canopy frame, you can simply hang a sheet of your favourite fabric over the top rails. Silk, velvet, sheer chiffon, and tapestry are all popular fabric options, but feel free to get creative and tailor your selection to the rest of the decor in your boudoir.
On the other hand, if your bed doesn’t feature a canopy frame, you can still get the same look by attaching curtain rods with panels onto the ceiling above it. Or, you can install two metal or wooden rings to the ceiling above the head of the bed and pull the fabric through it, spreading it out and letting it fall to the floor on either side (you can also attach four rings—one above each bed post).