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Mental Health Awareness Week: “I Have Fat” vs “I AM Fat”


This week is Mental Health Awareness week running from 14th May until 20th.
I really wanted to write a post to both support the cause but also to raise awareness with plus size babes across the world too.

I was at UKPSFW not so long ago and we spoke about “does size matter”? There was an array of different answers. Some said yes, some no. But one thing that was mentioned and has since STUCK in my head is that I HAVE fat, not I AM fat.

It came from bullying and children in school. e have to teach our youth that fat is not always such a negative word. It is what you want it to be. You are in control. That sounds easy right?!?

If we can teach others that fat is simply a describing word then in the future, who knows, it might change the way we look at plus size. Being “fat” should not take away from your achievement. Like, I am a caring person, I am a social worker, I am a good daughter and Friend…I am fat?????? Doesn’t sound right, does it?

For me, this links to my self-esteem. As a child, I have always, always had problems with this. And the sad thing is that so many other men and women out there do. it starts when we are children, so if you can prevent your own children or others to have good self-esteem then you are setting them up for life.

Self Esteem doesn’t mean confidence. You can come across confident. hell, I know I come across confident. So many people that to me and it does sometimes irritate me. especially when I’m having a bad day. but we all have bad days and we don’t need to let them impact on others. At the same time, we shouldn’t keep things to yourself.
Self-esteem can be in so many different forms. Mental health is not the same for everyone. For me, it’s not just about my looks. It’s about how good I am at my job, am I making mistakes, am I worthy? Self-esteem is definitely about your self-worth.

Some tips to help avoid low self-esteem taken from MIND:

  • Think about what is causing your low self-esteem
  • Avoid negative self-talk
  • Connect with people who love you
  • Learn to be assertive
  • Set yourself a challenge
  • Focus on positives
  • Take care of yourself

Now if you’re like me, these things sound so easy. It can be difficult to achieve these. My advice would be: surround yourself with only positive vibes on Social media. Delete those negative over opinionated people. Write down a list of your attributes. You’ll be surprised how hard this can be but keep adding as you’re increasing your self-confidence and you’ll see how far you’ve come on your journey.


I have been through this journey guys and it’s not easy. Also, it doesn’t change overnight. But one thing that has helped us to talk about it. Like writing this post. I promise and am going to talk more openly about my feeling because they are NORMAL!

I hope with this tiny little post that I’ve helped someone out there on the journey to building their self-worth!

Don’t forget if it all gets a bit too much then seek help from your GP and charities out there like MIND.


  1. 16/05/2018 / 3:22 pm

    Just wanted to say I really enjoyed reading this. I struggle with my weight a lot, and have done for a very long time. I lost some weight a year or so ago, and felt a bit better, but there’s still an overwhelming sense of negativity towards my body.

    Reading blog posts and articles like this helps me so much, because it reminds me I’m not alone and show me there are ways to live your life without constantly letting it drag you down. Even though I have a long way to go before I’m comfortable with my body and it’s going to take a lot of work, some days, I just need to know it’s possible. That’s what you have given me today, so thank you so much for sharing. 🙂

    Ruth | http://www.ruthinrevolt.com

  2. 16/05/2018 / 4:38 pm

    This is such an insightful post. Mental health is very beneficial

  3. 16/05/2018 / 5:48 pm

    Oh girl! Well done for this post. Growing up I was the “fat girl” in a country where everyone is skinny… It was hard and that mindset of my body image that i don’t like is still with me, even though I now have 2 kids and look alright. Also being someone who has suffered from depression, this post was a good reminder that I need to be in control of my feelings and how I perceive myself and everything around me.

  4. 16/05/2018 / 7:43 pm

    Many people struggle with weight issues. What I firmly believe is that some bodies are meant to be on the healthier side, that does not make them people to be stared at or made fun of. What contact is exercising a healthy lifestyle.

  5. 17/05/2018 / 1:55 pm

    I just truly loved this post It melted my heart to read and hear the I have fat not I am fat. That statement is just powerful. Who we are isn’t based on size. Thanks so much for sharing. You look beautiful! I adore the dress and the purse goodness that thing is adorable! Happy blogging to you!

  6. 17/05/2018 / 2:47 pm

    I actually love this post. So true..

    You have such a pretty theme too what theme do you use?

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